Dear Love,
I haven't met you yet, but when I do it will be utterly perfect, just because you are there. You are the essence of me and the reason I wake up in the morning. You are the thing that gets me through every other break-up with Mr. Not You. Just the thought of your existence is enough to keep me through the day. We will spend hours just talking and days when we do that will be the best days ever. Sometimes, I will just sit and wonder who you are and what you look like. Do you have green eyes? Blue eyes? Black hair, blonde hair? Will you hate doing dishes, same as me? Or will you be the guy that always does it for me? How many tears will I shed over other guys before I meet you? Have I already met you? How will we meet? When we are sleeping and my feet are cold, will you let me put them between your feet to warm them up? I think about us all the time and how when I'm with you nothing else will matter and how I will feel happy everyday and how it will feel perfect. I can't wait to meet you and love you and just be us together.
Love,
Phoebe
p.s. I love you!
To [your name here]
To [your name here],
You know who you are. You are the one who found me when I wasn’t looking. Or maybe I found you when you weren’t looking. I believe we will find ourselves on the same path in the future. We will find the path when our hearts are healed. My hope is that when we find each other again we will make adjustments, change our routes, and move at the same speed. I hope to spend Sunday mornings at the farmers market with you then spend the evening on the couch watching football. I hope to go on journeys, walks and adventures. I hope to walk across the entire city and only stop for coffee and pictures. I hope to never forget the beginning. I hope you know you don’t have to order vegetarian dishes (but I love that you do). I hope I’m your decision. I hope we can camp in the backyard, sleep under the stars, plant a garden, play basketball, cook, run and live together. I hope we can share our lives. I hope we can discover, learn and grow together. Mostly I hope you can always find me in the crowd.
This is my way of leaving Internet clues for you.
Love,
The one you should never forget
You know who you are. You are the one who found me when I wasn’t looking. Or maybe I found you when you weren’t looking. I believe we will find ourselves on the same path in the future. We will find the path when our hearts are healed. My hope is that when we find each other again we will make adjustments, change our routes, and move at the same speed. I hope to spend Sunday mornings at the farmers market with you then spend the evening on the couch watching football. I hope to go on journeys, walks and adventures. I hope to walk across the entire city and only stop for coffee and pictures. I hope to never forget the beginning. I hope you know you don’t have to order vegetarian dishes (but I love that you do). I hope I’m your decision. I hope we can camp in the backyard, sleep under the stars, plant a garden, play basketball, cook, run and live together. I hope we can share our lives. I hope we can discover, learn and grow together. Mostly I hope you can always find me in the crowd.
This is my way of leaving Internet clues for you.
Love,
The one you should never forget
The One I've been Waiting For
To The One I’ve been waiting for:
You are the love of my life and I can’t wait to meet you. I wonder if you think about finding me as often as I dream of finding you. I want to tell you about everything you missed in my life and I also want to hear all your stories. I love stories. I want to know you, hear your voice and hold your hand. I want you to finally be in my life. I want it to become real and I want everything to finally make sense. I constantly find myself looking for you. I look for you in the park, at the grocery store, across the bar and when I pull up to stop lights. I am then reminded that I will find you when I’m not looking. So I pretend to stop looking.
A year ago I met the most amazing and perfect guy. I literally ran home and told my sisters I had met the guy I was going to marry. He made promises that were not kept, the timing was off, and our worlds were pulling us in different directions. I was the wandering humanitarian. He was on the path to Wall Street. The life I had pictured for us no longer existed. Maybe it never did. It ended just as fast as it started. I was devastated. The possibility of us not being together was never an option I considered. Shortly after I became involved with someone who brought me back to life. Our lives overlapped and we found each other when we were both searching for something more. He showed me his world and instantly I knew I deserved more. He touched me in a way I know you will also touch me. I don’t know if he realized how much he helped me but he brought me to my own attention and left me standing. He loved so deeply (although not me) and he made me see that the kind of love I wanted did exist. I am 25 years old and I am finally ready to have you in my life. Because of this I know I am closer to finding you.
I have had so many of my married and engaged friends tell me, “you just know”. Well, I’ll be honest and let you know there were a few times when “I just knew”. Apparently I don’t have the ability to just know when I’ve met “the one” because I’ve been wrong each of these few times. My past relationships have been so important to me because they enabled me to grow and change. I learned what I did not want in a relationship and I also discovered what I do want. I want you and so far you haven’t been the one next to me. I believe all my past relationships and experiences have prepared me for you. You are not my first love. I have been hopelessly and desperately in love before. I’ve been hurt. I’ve been broken. I’ve been left behind and forgotten. After each breakup I picked myself up used all my courage to try again and take that leap of faith. I was able to do this knowing that you were out there. The past has enabled me to love fully and deeply. I’m not afraid to fall in love. I need you to understand that I’ve been involved in some intense, beautiful, spontaneous and unrealistic relationships. I fit with each of my ex-boyfriends. You may not picture me with some of them but you have to understand they were apart of my life. We each fit together in different ways; some fits were better than others. I can’t wait to fit with you in a new way. A different way. A perfect way.
I’m not looking for perfection. I know our relationship will be beautiful but far from perfect. Perfection bores me. I know what we have will be real. I know there will be arguments, disagreements and hard times. Despite the obstacles we’ll encounter I know we’ll smile, laugh, dance and love together. If I am reading this to you then you have to know that I never doubted you were out there for me. I can’t wait to hug you, kiss you, hold you and love you. Although I don’t know you yet I can confidently say that I Love You.
Love,
Your future wife & best friend
You are the love of my life and I can’t wait to meet you. I wonder if you think about finding me as often as I dream of finding you. I want to tell you about everything you missed in my life and I also want to hear all your stories. I love stories. I want to know you, hear your voice and hold your hand. I want you to finally be in my life. I want it to become real and I want everything to finally make sense. I constantly find myself looking for you. I look for you in the park, at the grocery store, across the bar and when I pull up to stop lights. I am then reminded that I will find you when I’m not looking. So I pretend to stop looking.
A year ago I met the most amazing and perfect guy. I literally ran home and told my sisters I had met the guy I was going to marry. He made promises that were not kept, the timing was off, and our worlds were pulling us in different directions. I was the wandering humanitarian. He was on the path to Wall Street. The life I had pictured for us no longer existed. Maybe it never did. It ended just as fast as it started. I was devastated. The possibility of us not being together was never an option I considered. Shortly after I became involved with someone who brought me back to life. Our lives overlapped and we found each other when we were both searching for something more. He showed me his world and instantly I knew I deserved more. He touched me in a way I know you will also touch me. I don’t know if he realized how much he helped me but he brought me to my own attention and left me standing. He loved so deeply (although not me) and he made me see that the kind of love I wanted did exist. I am 25 years old and I am finally ready to have you in my life. Because of this I know I am closer to finding you.
I have had so many of my married and engaged friends tell me, “you just know”. Well, I’ll be honest and let you know there were a few times when “I just knew”. Apparently I don’t have the ability to just know when I’ve met “the one” because I’ve been wrong each of these few times. My past relationships have been so important to me because they enabled me to grow and change. I learned what I did not want in a relationship and I also discovered what I do want. I want you and so far you haven’t been the one next to me. I believe all my past relationships and experiences have prepared me for you. You are not my first love. I have been hopelessly and desperately in love before. I’ve been hurt. I’ve been broken. I’ve been left behind and forgotten. After each breakup I picked myself up used all my courage to try again and take that leap of faith. I was able to do this knowing that you were out there. The past has enabled me to love fully and deeply. I’m not afraid to fall in love. I need you to understand that I’ve been involved in some intense, beautiful, spontaneous and unrealistic relationships. I fit with each of my ex-boyfriends. You may not picture me with some of them but you have to understand they were apart of my life. We each fit together in different ways; some fits were better than others. I can’t wait to fit with you in a new way. A different way. A perfect way.
I’m not looking for perfection. I know our relationship will be beautiful but far from perfect. Perfection bores me. I know what we have will be real. I know there will be arguments, disagreements and hard times. Despite the obstacles we’ll encounter I know we’ll smile, laugh, dance and love together. If I am reading this to you then you have to know that I never doubted you were out there for me. I can’t wait to hug you, kiss you, hold you and love you. Although I don’t know you yet I can confidently say that I Love You.
Love,
Your future wife & best friend
To A man who's doubtlessly fantastic
To: A man who's doubtlessly fantastic
From: Chiara C. at age 16 [with permission]
Okay. So. Right now I'm in the most wonderful relationship of my life thusfar. (Future Husband, if you're worthy for this spot, you shouldn't feel jealous while reading this first part, but thrilled that I had a healthy adolescent love life that made me very happy.) This guy is beyond astounding. We're best friends: we laugh together, we cry together, we work together, we play together. He writes me pages upon pages of incredible things that very seldom could be expected come out of a sixteen year old boy's mind. And he's brilliant, too, by the way. I can securely say that I am very much in love with him. I bring him up not only to let you know where I am psychologically while writing this letter, but also because lately he and I've been talking about The Future.
"The Future" is a terrifying and beautiful place where one leaves home for the first time and become an Adult (or as close to it as they can get. I suppose that especially for frat boys college does not necessarily equal adulthood. But for two overacheiving, overthinking, over-eager for college---for the education, no less---high school juniors who are ONLY allowed to think about The Future, it is supposed to.) We've been obnoxiously pragmatic for some time now; I wouldn't let him compliment me or confess any feelings for me for the first month or so that we were together because I didn't want to get myself hooked on an empty promise or feeling. "I love you forever," was always stitched to " 'forever' meaning, until, like, we're older or whatever." But lately it's getting harder and harder to add on the suffix statement. I think I will love him forever; if not forever as a significant other, than forever as one of the best friends I've ever had. And since it's gotten this way, The Future has been discussed. We both realize that it's doubtful that we'll be able to stay together during college (my dream school is on the East Coast, and even if I don't get in, we only overlap in two other choices), but we don't want that knowledge hanging over our heads RIGHT NOW while we're still happily together. We have something unspeakably special; I--- or whoever he ends up marrying--- would be infinitely lucky to be able to love and be loved by him. And whoever I end up with will be lucky too. But I want you, Future Husband, to know exactly how happy I am right now (and to be happy for me!). And I want to be able to remember how happy and how vehemently loved I am. And my boyfriend wants you to know too, and he wants you to know what's expected of you:
"Dear Chiara,
I know that we would both love to live together. So it better happen! But this is what I hope you have.
You deserve....
-You deserve someone who treats you like a prize of life, which is what you are. You are a prize of life, something that is worth getting up every day to see, and be with.
-You deserve someone who works hard and tries to better himself to try to reach your level.
-You deserve someone who is always trying to impress you, and keep you coming back for more, and never just leave you on the edge.
-You deserve someone you can disagree with, and not be afraid to. Someone you can have a fight with, but still make up with, and still be happy,
-You deserve someone who respects you.
-You deserve someone who loves you for exactly who you are, and nothing else. Every nook and cranny, every imperfection, ever perfection, and every part of you that makes you the best person ever.
-You deserve someone who can provide for the need you have in life.
-You deserve someone who is nice to your family.
-You deserve someone that will not force anything onto you or make you uncomfortable to the point that you can't stand it.
-You deserve someone whom you can learn things from.
-You deserve someone who you can teach things to.
-You deserve someone who physically loves you the way you want to, and loves every moment of it.
-You deserve someone whom you can have an intelligent conversation with about "testy" topics.
-You deserve someone that you can do the things you want to do with
-You deserve someone that can travel the world with you.
-You deserve someone who can raise children with you.
-You deserve someone who will always renew his love for you, and keep it strong.
-You deserve someone that can criticize you, and it will be okay.
-You deserve someone who has a shoulder you can lean on, arms you can run to, and a chest you can cry on.
-You deserve someone that will appreciate you and all your uniqueness.
-You deserve someone that will love you, because you are a prize of life.
-And if you don't have it, call me up.
-In a perfect world, I would be with you for the rest of my life. Hopefully this world is perfect. I want it to be perfect."
And I'm not telling you this, Future Husband, to put pressure on you or to say that you're not doing those things. I'm telling you so that you know that you ARE doing those things and MORE; that this is why I married you and why I love you so infinitely.
And if by some slight chance by the shaky hand of Fate I'm still with the boy who wrote the above, married and happy and living in the apartment we spoke about with the one room full of just books, making both quesadillas and love (though preferably not at the same time) in our little kitchen that I'll always keep full of fresh flowers, I want you to know that I'm glad that we made it.
Then again, if we didn't, I know that we'll both be satisfied knowing that one another is completely and truly happy. Because that's really what love is about, right?
Bursting at the seams with love,
Chiara
From: Chiara C. at age 16 [with permission]
Okay. So. Right now I'm in the most wonderful relationship of my life thusfar. (Future Husband, if you're worthy for this spot, you shouldn't feel jealous while reading this first part, but thrilled that I had a healthy adolescent love life that made me very happy.) This guy is beyond astounding. We're best friends: we laugh together, we cry together, we work together, we play together. He writes me pages upon pages of incredible things that very seldom could be expected come out of a sixteen year old boy's mind. And he's brilliant, too, by the way. I can securely say that I am very much in love with him. I bring him up not only to let you know where I am psychologically while writing this letter, but also because lately he and I've been talking about The Future.
"The Future" is a terrifying and beautiful place where one leaves home for the first time and become an Adult (or as close to it as they can get. I suppose that especially for frat boys college does not necessarily equal adulthood. But for two overacheiving, overthinking, over-eager for college---for the education, no less---high school juniors who are ONLY allowed to think about The Future, it is supposed to.) We've been obnoxiously pragmatic for some time now; I wouldn't let him compliment me or confess any feelings for me for the first month or so that we were together because I didn't want to get myself hooked on an empty promise or feeling. "I love you forever," was always stitched to " 'forever' meaning, until, like, we're older or whatever." But lately it's getting harder and harder to add on the suffix statement. I think I will love him forever; if not forever as a significant other, than forever as one of the best friends I've ever had. And since it's gotten this way, The Future has been discussed. We both realize that it's doubtful that we'll be able to stay together during college (my dream school is on the East Coast, and even if I don't get in, we only overlap in two other choices), but we don't want that knowledge hanging over our heads RIGHT NOW while we're still happily together. We have something unspeakably special; I--- or whoever he ends up marrying--- would be infinitely lucky to be able to love and be loved by him. And whoever I end up with will be lucky too. But I want you, Future Husband, to know exactly how happy I am right now (and to be happy for me!). And I want to be able to remember how happy and how vehemently loved I am. And my boyfriend wants you to know too, and he wants you to know what's expected of you:
"Dear Chiara,
I know that we would both love to live together. So it better happen! But this is what I hope you have.
You deserve....
-You deserve someone who treats you like a prize of life, which is what you are. You are a prize of life, something that is worth getting up every day to see, and be with.
-You deserve someone who works hard and tries to better himself to try to reach your level.
-You deserve someone who is always trying to impress you, and keep you coming back for more, and never just leave you on the edge.
-You deserve someone you can disagree with, and not be afraid to. Someone you can have a fight with, but still make up with, and still be happy,
-You deserve someone who respects you.
-You deserve someone who loves you for exactly who you are, and nothing else. Every nook and cranny, every imperfection, ever perfection, and every part of you that makes you the best person ever.
-You deserve someone who can provide for the need you have in life.
-You deserve someone who is nice to your family.
-You deserve someone that will not force anything onto you or make you uncomfortable to the point that you can't stand it.
-You deserve someone whom you can learn things from.
-You deserve someone who you can teach things to.
-You deserve someone who physically loves you the way you want to, and loves every moment of it.
-You deserve someone whom you can have an intelligent conversation with about "testy" topics.
-You deserve someone that you can do the things you want to do with
-You deserve someone that can travel the world with you.
-You deserve someone who can raise children with you.
-You deserve someone who will always renew his love for you, and keep it strong.
-You deserve someone that can criticize you, and it will be okay.
-You deserve someone who has a shoulder you can lean on, arms you can run to, and a chest you can cry on.
-You deserve someone that will appreciate you and all your uniqueness.
-You deserve someone that will love you, because you are a prize of life.
-And if you don't have it, call me up.
-In a perfect world, I would be with you for the rest of my life. Hopefully this world is perfect. I want it to be perfect."
And I'm not telling you this, Future Husband, to put pressure on you or to say that you're not doing those things. I'm telling you so that you know that you ARE doing those things and MORE; that this is why I married you and why I love you so infinitely.
And if by some slight chance by the shaky hand of Fate I'm still with the boy who wrote the above, married and happy and living in the apartment we spoke about with the one room full of just books, making both quesadillas and love (though preferably not at the same time) in our little kitchen that I'll always keep full of fresh flowers, I want you to know that I'm glad that we made it.
Then again, if we didn't, I know that we'll both be satisfied knowing that one another is completely and truly happy. Because that's really what love is about, right?
Bursting at the seams with love,
Chiara
Send Your Letters
I've started receiving letters but won't start posting for a few weeks.
Send your letters to lettertofuturelove@gmail.com
Send your letters to lettertofuturelove@gmail.com
Where did the idea come from?
One day I randomly came across a letter that a woman had written to her future husband and immediately decided I had to write my own. In the past I have written letters to boyfriends confessing my love and my hopes for our future together. Unfortunately i've never been brave enough to actually send these letters to the intended reader for fear of rejection. Although I don't send my letters to the intended reader I need them to be read by someone. Anyone. I like to pick a random state, a random city and a name I like then I send my letter. I love the idea of anonymous letters and hope you will also share your letter.
Send your own letter to lettertofuturelove@gmail.com
I will start posting letters at the end of the month and will post my own letter soon.
Send your own letter to lettertofuturelove@gmail.com
I will start posting letters at the end of the month and will post my own letter soon.
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